He and A are similar in a lot of ways. When they feel vulnerable, which includes having any kind of feeling they don't understand, they lash out with whatever they've got. You can't just take them at their word in those situations, because they're not trying to express their real feelings, they're trying to hide them.
Same MO, same situation you described, but what you're getting at with that is I'm supposed to... what? Just accept what they say and do? Not get angry? Be the bigger man since I have emotional competence advantage and just shrug it off and call their bluff?
I can't always be the emotionally competent one, Maki. Sometimes I'm the one who's wanting to bust people's faces in to get back even an ounce of control.
No, that's not the only problem there. He's doing it in reverse, too. It's like he won't believe anything you say about your feelings is true no matter what. He was sure you're just trying to trick him or something. Even showing it with your actions hasn't helped, he acts like you're just waiting for your chance to abandon him.
... all that is probably why I wasn't as clued in with your relationship with Intensity before. Just doesn't process for me the same way if they're not showing the same sides.
Oh, I let him know that immediately. But he also wasn't very receptive to my argument that being attracted to basically everyone without knowing anything specific about them made it a bit less meaningful.
He's just been good to Bad End, checking in on Thorn and stuff. So I'm probably a little forgiving because of that. Definitely cheering you on, though.
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[cold as ice.]
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Yeah, I talked to A about it a bit.
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Same MO, same situation you described, but what you're getting at with that is I'm supposed to... what? Just accept what they say and do? Not get angry? Be the bigger man since I have emotional competence advantage and just shrug it off and call their bluff?
I can't always be the emotionally competent one, Maki. Sometimes I'm the one who's wanting to bust people's faces in to get back even an ounce of control.
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I don't... know how to fix that.
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[but also it... actually really hurts to have that all confirmed.
time to pull up his knees and just curl up a bit.]
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[she wraps an arm around him and leans into him quietly]
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I'll figure it out somehow.
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Wh-Why would they even want to date me if they didn't like me?
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[it's funny because like. lol.]
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...People keep making fun of me for having three boyfriends. I feel like it really gives the wrong impression...
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It's not like half the people here can judge anyway. Everyone's got crushes on everyone.
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[snerks a bit.]
He's just been good to Bad End, checking in on Thorn and stuff. So I'm probably a little forgiving because of that. Definitely cheering you on, though.
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That was a joke.
I promise. No polls on cuteness.
... polls on hotness won't be my doing. Blame all sexy polls on Sunshine.
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...W-Well, there's only a few people whose opinions I care about on hotness, anyway.
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